Every day, even when I was in England, multiple people would message/text/call me asking for advice on things. Mostly relationships to be honest, like I'm some magic 8 ball. So now that I'm back I feel like that is all I do. Most of my conversations with my friends are me advising them in aspects of their relationships/jobs/academic pursuits. Which I don't really mind at all. I like doing it, I like being helpful. I don't even care that they don't listen until they've already fucked up massively.
I just wonder sometimes if they understand that I have literally no idea what I'm talking about sometimes. I don't know...last night I was giving Nicole's Dad's girlfriend relationship/life advice. (Not that her situation was a big deal, just a minor drunk fight) This woman is twice my age. The whole time I'm talking I realize how idealistic my views are on love. I'm giving her my all-or-nothing love philosophy. That whole, "You love until you don't, you're happy until you're not, because you shouldn't just settle for something mediocre," sermon I give everyone.
But for as many people as I've given that speech to...for my entire life...even when I was very, very, young...I just can't help but think that maybe I am wrong? I mean, there is some truth to all peoples' views on things. Especially for something as vague and abstract as love. But I keep thinking that I'm way off. That maybe love is just settling sometimes. Even though just settling would be a very dismal life for me. But I just see it, in everyone's relationships, that 'just settling' thing.
If someone is literally torturing you in anyway and you're "just dealing with it," I can't even see how that would be worth it. I've been in a lot of shitty situations when it comes to relationships. I've been every combination of abused by another person who I loved. When I see other people in those situations, it drives me insane. Because I feel like it is okay for me to get hurt...but not okay for people I care about...maybe? I mean I did just sit in a shitty relationship recently and didn't do anything about it until it went too far.
Eh, but then there is the other side of the coin where people want to break up over every minor fight or really dumb shit. And that really irritates me too. If I ask someone if they're happy and they say, "Yes, totally, but I don't like how they (insert something really trivial) so I don't know if it is going to work out."
I just think...yeah okay you're an idiot. Really. I once had a girl ask for my advice because she wanted to break up with her fiance because he didn't have the same design tastes as her. This girl was 26 at the time and was with this guy for 4 years. I just...I stared at her...and I think I actually said, "Are you joking? Why are we friends?"
And in those situations I want to be paid for my time in hearing you bitch about someone you love and whom you're lucky to have.
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