I got a message going into my only class today from some random male acquaintance. Anyway, it was basically him asking me out on a date. In which, I said, "Sorry but I already have plans tonight." I left out the obviously included subtext of, "stop asking me out on 'dates' because I don't want to date you." I say obviously included because I told him when I met him I wasn't interested in him. Anyway, I would have rescheduled some plans with him or invited him out to where I was planning on going tonight but instead he messaged me back very rudely.
The message basically called me a whore, trying to make me feel guilty for having other friends and making other plans in advance. Like I'm supposed to feel guilty for not dropping my previous plans to hang out with this person. Are you kidding me?
Anyway this isn't the first time this person has done this to me. I don't even know him, we don't talk ever, we only talk when he asks me to do something and then I say I can't because this is too little notice for these things. You seriously can't message someone an hour before something and ask them out....are you stupid? I mean, really, I'm all up for spontaneous adventures but if I'm going with someone it is usually someone I really like and don't mind being spontaneous with. I'm not going to drop all my plans to run out somewhere to hang out with you when I don't even know you.
I'm so irritated by this person's mean message to me. It seriously doesn't make me conceited because I don't want to date every guy who talks to me. It makes you a conceited jerk because you think I need to go out with you in order to not be considered a whore. I don't even understand where the attitude comes from. I talked to you once, in a bar, because I'm polite and talk to everyone. I also talk to lots of guys in bars. I don't become friends with any or all of them. I also don't expect to go on dates with anyone, nor do I want to.
All he did by sending that message was just make me hate people. Especially him. Also it freaked me out. It makes me not want to talk to him. Let alone go on a date with him. If he thinks that treating a girl like that is going to get him anywhere with them then he needs to seriously learn some manners.
I realize that you feel slighted by women and you seem to think that we're all jerks who purposely blow you off. But maybe it isn't that they are blowing you off, maybe it is because as soon as you talk to one you expect them to fall madly in love with you and want to drop their life to hang out with you. And when they don't, you're mean to them. Listen, even if I was interested in you, I wouldn't be able to hang out with you when I already had other plans. Because I don't break plans when they are written in stone. I'm loyal to a fault and one of those facets of loyalty is that I show up where I say I'm going to be regardless of the situation. I don't cancel plans just because someone asked me on a date. I'm not desperate for a man.
Just because you think there is something wrong with you because you're not in a relationship doesn't mean that other people feel that insecure about themselves. I'm not insecure because I'm purposely not going on dates. I don't need validation by going out with you. I don't need to hop into a relationship to feel like I have value and you trying to devalue me because I am "turning down a great opportunity," because you're such a "great guy" only makes me think you're a fucking douchebag.
The only thing worse than a fratboy douchebag is the awkward guy who acts like a douchebag because he thinks he's better than every other guy who I could be talking to because he's a "a true gentleman." Let me tell you, a real "gentleman" is not going to jump down the throat of a girl who turns him down for a date. And call her a whore. Maybe you're not as awesome as you think you are, maybe you're just an ass who needs to learn how to treat people with respect as much as a "fratboy douchebag" does.
And some Amanda Palmer because I'm bored and listening to her.
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